Pat, no problem! In the future if you wish to reply to a message such as this, click on their name instead of posting in your profile, and then leave the message, this way it shows up on their page and not yours. HTH.
Oh, duh, Pat
on the right side of this screen is "friends", "albums" "group memberships" "recent visitors" and under 'group memberships' it says "You are not a member of any groups" so I thought I needed to join something besides signing into forums.