HELP wedding

[sarasarax2]

I am looking at getting married in the next year. I have looked around and am having a problem choseing where to have it, ect, ect. I am even considering going to vegas to have it. does anybody have any wedding advice???

[mom2fussbudgets]

First of all, congrats! I got married at city hall, so I don't know how to tell you to choose! Do you want an outside wedding? Church wedding? My best friend got married at a house that had been turned into a wedding chapel and it was very nice!

I do want to say something about a Vegas wedding. I would not do that unless you are going to elope. My brother did that for his second wedding, and honestly, it was a big pain. Everyone had to get there, first of all. Then we had to rent hotel rooms. And, those of us who had children with us could not really go out and party like some of the others, which was a bummer!

I guess it all depends on your guests whether you should have a Vegas wedding. What can they afford, would they be willing to travel, and would they enjoy Vegas? Or not?

[Cpogie]

What part of the country do you live in?
are you near the beach, a Lake, Park? Someone's Backyard? I live in a Lake community, they have weddings on the lake......some are preformed on the lake in a boat. You just have to think outside the box so to say....If you go to Las Vegas, have fun! I got married in Las Vegas at the court house, then it was just 15 dollars to get married by the justice of the piece......you can probably check out wedding chapels on line......with prices, etc...they may have package deals for the amount of guests you bring. Don't forget, only an hour or so down the road.....Laughlin, Nevada.........I prefer Laughlin because it is smaller and easy to get around, cost less, and you have the Colorado River right there.......if you have never been there, well this is your wedding! Is this a summer wedding, winter, fall, spring?? Best of luck to you both!!!!!!!!!!!! I love weddings!!!

[VanillaBean]

I will be doing City Hall and then reception couple of months later-way cheaper and less fuss yet still a beautiful day to remember. I can still get gussied up for the ceremony downtown and have him in a suit so we will look nice! Just time and money saver.

[tad1969]

:D Hi there! Congrats on your engagement! Planning a wedding can be scary...a LOT of decisions to make. I found a lot of help at weddingchannel.com (I'm planning a Civil Union myself!) I know that these websites always show the most rediculously priced, unnatural things, but this one helps with creating a budget, questions to ask the venue, caterer etc.

There is also theknot.com--I found them a bit too trendy.

Talk things over with your finance, figure out how much the two of you (and if your lucky, your family) will be bugeting. That will then help you narrow down your choices!

If I had my way, and a smaller family, we would be going to North Conway NH and staying in a Bed and Breakfast and having a Justice of the Peace perform the ceremony in the woods!

[sarasarax2]

wow that sounds nice at a bed and breakfast.

Its alittle stange because my family is mormon and his family are real drinkers. so its difficult to try to make a party that everybody will be comfortable at. normaly I would just have a dry reception but all the heavy drinkers are driving form another state over so I dont know if that would be proper ettiquette?

one things i do know is I went to my cousins in laws wedding last weekend and it was open bar. grosse... everybody was so drunk. The groom even peed his pants at the reception. the people we sat at the table with were literally on their 7th gin and tonic by the end of dinner. thats just grosse. I all up for fun but Ill never forget that.

[LadyPyro]

It's your wedding, so it's your choice whether or not to serve alcohol. DH & I had the same sort of issue, we solved it by having 2 receptions! This was my Mom's idea, actually. His family (non-drinkers) were all from out of state & needed to be gone early. We had a supper reception, right after the ceremony, in the church hall. The wedding party stopped at my parent's home to change into more comfortable clothes before we went to the 2nd party, which was held just a little later at a restaurant/hall/bar owned by a family friend. The owner helped us out by not serving alcohol past a certain time, and we had a light sandwich supper served before everyone left. My Mom took care of getting the tuxes etc back to the rental place for us. I agree, getting stupid-drunk at a function like that is not only gross but downright rude. I hope you have a GREAT time at your wedding!

[cath_31]

I really liked the wedding chapel that we had our ceremony at. They gave you the option of having it inside or outside and supplied the minister and music.

As for the alcohol debate, my husband was insistant that we have open bar and I didn't even care if we had alcohol at all. Since he felt so strongly about it, I let him have his way. Since he and I have different tastes in music, he let me choose the songs our DJ played. I think you have to try to compromise on issues you disagree on. Everything worked out wonderfully. We didn't have any problems with drunk guests and the reception was great (and so was the music-lol).

[GeorgiaMom]

Just remember that it is YOUR wedding. Don't worry about what other people are going to think of the choices you make concerning the reception or any other aspect of YOUR day. You are the one who is going to cherish the memory of your wedding day for the rest of your life. Your guests will remember it for a week (maybe less if they are sloppy drunks..lol), so don't worry about them. The only extra consideration that should be given to any of the guests is any compensations that need to made for the elderly or having vegetarian options if need be. Otherwise, plan your day according to what you want! If the out of towners want to drink, let them buy their own alcohol and consume it in the parking lot!!!!:D

[Cpogie]

Jude, I hope this user sees this at some point, she has not been on since Feb of this year, she may of already gotten married? Still great advice though.

[asumom]

CONGRATULATIONS on the wedding. My daughter is getting married on July 12 of this yr and this wedding has been on a budget do to other circumstances, but her and her fiance, did alot of compromising, The church where the will be getting marries offered them a fellowship hall for reception, and the only thing no alcohol of any kinda, but it was cheaper for them to go that way, and after words if they wanted to drink do it somewhere else. we also tried oriental trading and our dollar store had some beautiful things and cheap for the reception, and decorations, plus grandma is making as a gift to the bride and groom all flowers, (bouquet, corsages,etc) So relax and take it one day at a time, and have a great time doing it. Things will work out.
I also see she hasn't beenon, but any and all advice is good even if she can use it someone else might can, So CONGRATULATIONS TO ALL UPCOMING WEDDINGS