23 Days to live

[ALawicki]

Please say some prayers for a good friend of mine's friend. He got into a bad bike accident a few days ago and is in ICU. He still has not woken up, and today they gave him 23 days. They said if he doesn't wake up in 23 days they will pull the plug. When he crashed he hit his head really bad and they had to remove 20% of his brain. If he wakes up he will not be the same. The main part they had to remove was his memory, so he won't remember anything and can't for the rest of his life. He is unconcious and they said the only movement he has is when his pain medicine runs out, you can see him be in pain. It is very sad, and I know my friend can't take losing another person (he was with our last friend that died on a bike). I am sad they are going to let him stay in this condition for 23 days before they make any decisions as he is just suffering. If you could not see him in so much pain I would not think this, but it is so sad. Please say your prayers for him which every way you think is better for him. I know they would love for him to survive, but his condition is so bad that he won't have much of a life if he does wake up. Also please pray for our friends to be safe. We have gone through ALOT of loses lately and I know most of us can't take another especially with the holidays coming.:(

[AzuAngel]

oh my that is horrible... I will be praying for him and the family as this must be really hard to go through and witness:(

[SSIAnkie]

Prayers for all involved. May they find peace in the decisions ahead of them.

[countrypkin65]

Ashley, my heart and prayers go out to you & your friends. This truly made me cry and brought back some awfully sad memories of my own Brother. He was killed in a motorcycle accident in 1991. He was 30 years old.

I would give just anything to be able to hug him just one more time. To hear his laugh and see his smile one more time. I have my memories that I will cherish forever, and try to "hear" his voice and laughter, in my mind. I think of his warm strong hugs in my thoughts and sometimes even think I see him (in strangers faces) when I really need him most!
It has to be awfully difficult for your friends family...I couldn't imagine what they are going through. Just assure them, that you will be there for them, and that they are not alone. Encourage your friend to talk about it whenever they need to, and just lend a shoulder.
I'll be praying for them all.

[Ginnycakes]

My heart is crying for him and his family and will say a prayer for all. My cousin just lost his only son a couple months ago to an accident. He was in a coma for a while and on life support. They decided to donate his organs before finally letting him go. He was my sons age, only 24.

countrypkn, I am truly sorry about your brother. Hugs to you..

[ALawicki]

countrypkin65 & Ginnycakes I am so sorry to hear about your losses. My friend is really upset. He has seen the pain he is in and can't believe they would let him suffer. I hope the best for him, but they don't even know how much brain damage he has besides them removing 20% of his brain. I couldn't imagine having to deal with this and I hope the best for his family. It is so sad that this happens to anyone.:(

[Jess0587]

That is absolutely terrible. Adding him and everyone involved to my prayers. :(

[countrypkin65]

My heart is crying for him and his family and will say a prayer for all. My cousin just lost his only son a couple months ago to an accident. He was in a coma for a while and on life support. They decided to donate his organs before finally letting him go. He was my sons age, only 24.

countrypkn, I am truly sorry about your brother. Hugs to you..

I'm sorry for your loss too, and it must be a comfort knowing there is a physical link through his donated organs. His life still carries on. I am a strong believer in donating organs.
ALawicki, thank you, its been many years now...and although it does get a little easier...it is not forgotten. Anyone who has experienced a loss such as this, needs sooo much love and understanding. The pain will always be there, no matter how much time passes. With good friends & family, its a comfort to remember the good times with the loved one who has passed!.

[ALawicki]

I couldn't imagine losing one of my family members. I have never lost anyone close to me until a few months ago. It is hard and the people I have lost I cared for, but they were not like my best friend or anything. I couldn't imagine losing someone extremely close. When our last friend died in a bike accident one of my best friends was riding next to him and she almost died. I freaked then and couldn't stop crying know we lost him and that we almost lost her and her boyfriend. Death is not something I take too well. Having people around to remember those great times with after you lose someone is amazing. It still upsets me to know we lost Lucy a few days ago and my mom told me her reaction to me doing the walk for her, and I just want to cry. The last week has been hard on me. I am not used to having so many deaths around me. I know I am thankful to still be here and I am happy with my life, I just wish everyone was healthy and still here.

[Motherofthree]

So so sad. Praying for everyone involved..

This has got to be one of the hardest decisions this family will ever make... :(

So sorry to hear about Pam's and Ginnycake's losses as well.

[wbarker]

I will pray that his pain will ease, and that his family and the doctors will be blessed in making the right decisions. It is all in God's hands now - so I also pray for peace for everyone involved.

Bike accidents are so horrible - there just isn't enough protection for the people riding them!

Prayers and hugs are sent your way!

Wendi

[Cpogie]

Ashley I will keep your friend and his family in my prayers. This is the hardest thing a family can go through to see their loved one lying in a hospital bed and they can do nothing to help, except pray. This is in God's hands and he will decide what is best. Hopefully he will not suffer.

[MandMnmbr3]

Ashley, I am so sorry to hear about your friends accident. For some reason, it seems even harder to deal with death and situations like this when it is close to Christmas, at least it is for me. I will definitely keep this family as well as you in my prayers.

Pam & Ginnycakes: I am so sorry to hear of your losses as well. Pam you are right, you never really get over the loss. It might not be on the front burner as the years go by, but the pain is still there.

Hugs & Prayers,
Mae

[wicked1]

I pray for your friend and all friends and families involved. This is such a difficult situation. I know God will help the family make the right decision. Sometimes we hang on for "selfish" reasons. I know I did, when my Mom passed away this Aug. In one year, I lost 9 very close friends and family members. It is so sad this time of year, as well as all the other days that pass without our loved ones. I'm sorry for everyone else's losses as well. Most of us do have loved ones we've lost. It really hurts and many tears are shed, but the best things are all the wonderful memories. Those will never die. Again, I pray for all my on-line aquaintences, and especially for you, at this time.

[ALawicki]

I pray for your friend and all friends and families involved. This is such a difficult situation. I know God will help the family make the right decision. Sometimes we hang on for "selfish" reasons. I know I did, when my Mom passed away this Aug. In one year, I lost 9 very close friends and family members. It is so sad this time of year, as well as all the other days that pass without our loved ones. I'm sorry for everyone else's losses as well. Most of us do have loved ones we've lost. It really hurts and many tears are shed, but the best things are all the wonderful memories. Those will never die. Again, I pray for all my on-line aquaintences, and especially for you, at this time.

Thanks. Sorry to hear about your mother, I couldn't imagine lossing my mom.

He is still not woken up. He has about 18 days or so left. We just realized the other day when we were with out firends talking about it that if he doesn't wake up, they will be pulling the plug RIGHT around Christmas:eek: I hope they don't do it on the actual day cause I know even the day before or day after will be hard enough.

[ALawicki]

They will be pulling the plug 2 days after Christmas. I just texted my friend to point out the exact day, and her boyfriend is not doing so well now. From the way it sounds they don't expect him to wake up. We also found out he has no health insurance, so if he does wake up he won't be able to afford pt to help him walk and talk again. Please pray for his family and close friends as none of us realize this until today. I know it has to be hard. His mother won't even come up to the hospital when anyone else is there.:(

[ALawicki]

HE OPENED HIS EYE!!!! He is still not awake, but atleast that is more than he was doing. They have decided they are going to move him to a nursing home in 2 weeks. That will give him more time to wake up than the hospital he is at. With movement, hopefully he will wake up soon! They took him off all his medication a few days ago to try and wake him up (I think that sounds horrible, put him in the most pain to wake him up, gosh). Maybe it is working though. I just hope he is not suffering much longer. Hopefully he wakes up and won't be in so much pain.

Thanks for the prayers everyone. They must be working pretty well!! I know it means alot to my friend and of course the guys family. This is a horrible time to have to go through all of this.

[Cpogie]

It sounds like they had him in drug induced coma, and they have finally taken him off the meds.....that is a good sign. Prayer works! Hopefully this is the beginning of a great ending. Lets keep praying.

[ALawicki]

It sounds like they had him in drug induced coma, and they have finally taken him off the meds.....that is a good sign. Prayer works! Hopefully this is the beginning of a great ending. Lets keep praying.

I don't think it was a drug induced coma, they just had him on all the drugs because of the surgeries he went through. He has not woken up since the actual accident, not even for a minute. It's sad this happened, but atleast it looks as if he will wake up soon. They said that if they stop giving him pain medicine that the extreme pain can actually wake him up (sounds so horrible to me), so that is why they took him off. Plus I think they are wanting him to either wake up or die because he had no health insurance so they don't want to keep him the whole amount of time. That is why they are moving him now. Prayers sure do work though. Thanks everyone.

[wicked1]

I will continue to pray for all involved and for the right decisions to be made. Maybe this is a good sign he opened his eye. It's hard losing a parent, but for a parent to lose a child is the worst. I pray his mother finds strength.

[ALawicki]

He has not made anymore improvement, but I am hoping the prayers will work great again soon! Thanks everyone. I know it is hard for my friend to lose another one of their friends so soon after the last. Especially in the same kind of accident.

[ALawicki]

HE IS AWAKE AND DOING BETTER!! Thanks for all the prayers.

He now has both eyes open and is moving his arms and legs. He is really fighting for his life and I think he will pull through! Now that he has movement I am hoping they will give him meds again. My friend said he squeezed her hand, but she really doesn't know if he even knows what is going on or who they are. They still don't really have any idea if he will walk or talk again since they removed some of his brain. Just keep up those prayers because they sure are working. What a great present this will be for his family if he is doing even better before Christmas!:D

[wicked1]

That's good news. I'm still with you and family, Alawicki. Thank you for keeping us informed.

[AzuAngel]

that is good news... he is still in my prayers... as well as his family...

[ALawicki]

He is now talking and moving more!!! YAY!! They won't be pulling the plug! He doesn't remember everyone, which is really sad, but he has made such progress! They never expected him to wake up and now he is talking:eek: They said he would probably never be able to talk or walk again. Thanks for the prayers. My friend really thanks you also. She is glad he has made such a change and he has such a great chance of getting pretty much back to normal!:o

[Cpogie]

Thats the best Christmas news!! Thanks for the update, and more prayers to follow for a full recovery. God does listen!! and he answers prayers.

[wicked1]

That is wonderful news!! Lots of prayers coming his way!

[bunny]

wow that is wonderful !!!

[we3kings]

That is wonderful news Ashley! Can we say Christmas miracle?:)

[AzuAngel]

WOW THAT IS SO GREAT!!!!! THE POWER OF PRAYER AND CANNOT BE BEAT!!!

I will still keep him in my prayers!:D

[2550]

WOW! That's wonderful. A miracle for sure.

[bunny]

any updates ? I hope he is still pulling out some miracles.

[wicked1]

I'm glad you asked that, Bunny. I've been wondering as well. Hope he is making great progress!

[ALawicki]

Oh ya I meant to post this morning. He was released from the hospital a few days ago! He is basically back to normal. He can speak, walk, and remember basically everything now. Thanks for all the prayers.

[onefearlesswoman]

Wow! that is great news!

[wicked1]

Amazing!! :)

[Motherofthree]

A divine miracle! :D So happy for him and his family!

[Cpogie]

One very lucky young man given a second chance for a great life. Truly a miracle!

[ALawicki]

He is very lucky! He still has a metal plate in his head, and I am sure they will just keep it in. But to have 20% of your brain removed and still be normal, that is a miracle. When my friend went to visit him right before New Years, she said he was trying to sneak out and leave with them! They would not release him until he could eat enough on his own. Thanks for all the prayers. My friend really appreciates it and I know him and his family do too!

[AzuAngel]

WOW!!! THAT IS WHAT YOU CALL A MIRACLE!!! YAY!!!!:D

I am so happy for him and his whole family!!!:)

I hope he lives this "second" life great and in the right path...:)

not to many people get second chances at life... ;)

[caryn]

WOW! What a story! God does work miracles everyday! I hope that he can somehow share this story with many people. He is truly blessed!:)

[Dreamie61]

YEAH!!!!!!!! Miracles do happen!!!! :)

[bunny]

this is great news.!!!!!!!!!!!!!