prayer request

[asumom]

I'm, new here and don't know if you allow this or not, but I see everyone is quite friendly and helpful.
My family has had some hardships this year and I still don't really know how Christmas will turn out, My husband lost his job a few yrs ago and we still haven't really got on our feet. my husband can't pass a background check so no good job. I was told i have 2 cracked vetibrae in my lower back, I fell and mess up my knee in july and it still isn't doing to good. I can't work because I can't sit to long or stand to long. Please keep my family in your prayers for a better new year.Financially and health. Thank You and God Bless
I hope everyone has a Merry Christmas and a Blessed New Year

[gatito]

I Feel Really Sorry For You And Your Situation, We All Are Gonna Pray For You And Trust God, He Will Make The Miracle You Need !!:)

[mood4amelody]

Hi and Welcome!, and of course you can feel confident asking for prayers of support! I can sure understand your situation! Do you have kids that we should include in our prayers? I know this sounds stupid, but if you just remember that at Christmas time, you are celebrating Jesus' birthday, you will have a happy Christmas. There have been times that the kids and I thought that just cake for Jesus' birthday was going to be our entire celebration. Through the unexpected generosity of others, it was full of good will and some presents, too!

I used to manage an employment agency, and if it is a felony that is holding up your husband's employment, tell him to just be honest about it. I have hired felons before. The past isn't always such a big issue to others as it seems to be to us. I was more interested in someone who was willing to go to work regularly and do a decent job! When I would call the client and say I had an employee who wants to work, but there is a felony in the past, it generally didn't matter to them. A lot of folks are willing to give someone a chance, even if the background is sketchy. It's what they see when they talk to you that's important, so if they see an earnest desire that's what counts.

Best of luck to you!!

[asumom]

yes, I do have 3 children, Its the youngest who I kinda worry about,
My children are 23,17 and 10.
The 10 year old has some issues we worry about , ADHD borderline diabetic and some learning problems, the teachers have been great this yr, she is on new meds and doing much better.
My husband is so frustrated about the job issue that I just tell him pray about it, it will work out, but when I am by myself I cry all the time overthis, he hates what he is doing but at least its something. It is a felony that holds him back, but it was a no-contest situation, and there was no way he could of done what he was accused of, . This all happened 15 yrs ago, but it just the last few yrs he lost his job over it and was working at this place(Target) when it all happened. Thanks again for being here, when I feel like I have noone.

[Cpogie]

You have friends right here, you might not know it right now, but we have a lot of caring wonderful people here, I will pray for you and your family, and remember the most important thing is that as a family you are all together, we never know what tomorrow brings, but having your family close is the best anyone can ever ask for, I wish the very best for you and your family, and welcome to the SS forum.

[mkrebecca]

Hello and welocome to SS! I wil be praying for your family in this holiday season! If you are part of a church they are always willing to help out, or if not maybe you could get ahold of one. The firefighters will help. There are a bunch of agencys that can help. Don't be afraid to ask! Thats what they are there for. My daughters school even gave us a gift card from the PTO. So let your principal know whats going on. Have faith that it will all work out and it will, it always does when we have no clue how to fix things!!

[GeorgiaMom]

You will learn very quickly that the people on this site really do care about each other. We will all be praying for you and your family. Like, CPogie said, focus on the fact that at least you are together as a family. Everything else will work out somehow.

[wbarker]

You and your family will be in my prayers! You might want to focus on creating some Christmas traditions instead of focusing on the gift aspect. When I was growing up, my mom started having us create a Christmas skit, and we would make taffy - it was a wonderful tradition, and didn't cost much at all! (sugar, water, ummmm, food coloring, etc)

Blessings!

[MandMnmbr3]

You and your family will be in my prayers. Like some of the others already said, if you are a member of a Church go to the office/rectory and explain your situation and see if they can offer an assistance.

My family has had a few years where we did not exchange gifts for Christmas. My husband was in between jobs and we could not afford to buy anything other than our basic necessities. We did put up our Christmas tree, bake cookies, make candies, and celebrate Jesus' birthday. Being healthy and having a place to live was the most important thing to us.

All the best to you and your family!

[mom2fussbudgets]

I will be keeping you in my prayers as well. I am so sorry to hear about all of the problems you've been having. Big hugs!

[asumom]

I just want to thank everyone for there kind and thoughtful words, I have signed my daughter up for several local christmas give away programs, The were called Brown Santa (sheriffs department) and Christmas in Castroville. They provide a gift for the child and groceries for the family. Which will come in handy. Plus I just found out my 23yo is coming home from Virginia with her fiance, for christmas.

[mood4amelody]

Good job, sweetie! Sometimes you have to take the initiative to make things happen for the kids! Tell you hubby to be honest on the job applications. It's better than working for a long time somewhere and then getting fired for it later. If it's not an awful kind of felony, like child molesting or something, is there any chance that your hubby can have his record quashed since it's been such a long time ago and I assume he's been out of trouble since then? If you plead to the judge that you cannot obtain work to support the family, he may treat you kindly.

[asumom]

We have to take it to the governors office to have it pardoned, I have already sent a letter detailing everything, twice but since it was along time ago,I am sure that they have to go and check the records and everthing like that. It has only been like 2 months since I wrote, so it might take time.
Hubby has been honest about everything and it doesn't seem to matter, The first thing they want to do is a background check, and if you can't pass forget it It's good bye, weve had that door closed so many times in the last year and a half that hes reral frustrated, and I don't know how to help. he has been out of trouble and whats bad he didn't do what he was accused of ,but you have to pay the price i guess, when the judge says your guilty. The job he hadd and got fired for he had before and they knew about the incident and didn't care until the store changed hands.

[bvanpeltsw]

Can your husband not work at places like McDonald's or another fast food place?

They do not require a background check and that would be some form of employment and money for your family.

[mood4amelody]

I used to work for the State of Iowa Dept. of Gaming. We are talking very rigorous background checks. Even so, they would allow a felon to get licensed if they had a good reason. Even "Well, I was young and stupid and got hooked up with a bad crowd" was good enough.

This store that changed hands, was the felony on his job application? Did he have it checked that yes, he'd had a felony? If so, and the new company fired him with that as a reason, I'd say lawsuit...

[asumom]

My husband does work right now it just isn;t enough to run this household,if you know what I mean. He took a major drop in pay,when he lost his job, and it played havoc on my bills, My family has help till it hurts, my parents are on a fixed imcome and help when they can, no help from hubbys family. It is not recommended that he work someplace like Mc Donalds or other fast food places. my son recently applied to work at a pzza place and the done a background check. he has tried to find work at a warehouse job,stocker,truck driver,etc. No the felony wasn't on his job application it happened while he was working there and they kept him on. The store he worked for and that in the end done him wrong was Target

[mood4amelody]

It is not recommended that he work someplace like Mc Donalds or other fast food places.

Why is that?

Also, you mentioned that you wrote to the Gov'nr. You may try writing to your area representatives and ask them to petition the governor as well. You can probably find their email addresses and just send an email. Has your hubby tried temp. employment agencies? Work thru them often turns into a good full-time job if you are a good worker.

[bvanpeltsw]

My mom always taught me that you do what you have to do in order to survive.

I worked 2 FULL-TIME jobs my first 2 years in college and went to school. I did this because my parents were ill. If was in a very sticky situation and had to do what I needed to do in order to help my parents.

Can your husband work 2 jobs? I do not understand why you said it is not recommended that he work in fast food. I have never heard of any fast food restaurant doing background checks (unless you are in management)- they are VERY expensive and most places avoid it.

There are only a few felonies that I know of that would prohibit someone from working in fast food.

[gatito]

Well I Am Sorry, But All The Suggestions Here Are Not Good For You, If He Can Not Work, Then Go Work Your Self And Support Your Man, If You Can Not Work Either, Try Getting A New Husband Which Will Support You Or If That Is Not A Good Option Either, Go And Do What Everybody Does.....apply For Food Stamps, Rent Assistance, Ask Them To Pay Your Bills And Stay Home Watching Tv ! Cancel Your Internet And Sell Your Computer, That Will Help Too.

[mood4amelody]

Have you attemped getting disability for your 2 cracked vetibrae and messed up my knee? Like Brandy, I've done the 2f/t jobs and a f/t job plus f/t school while raising 4 kids! We've been homeless twice, and only just now are able to have cable and internet for the first time in 9 years. We still can't do things like rent movies regularly, go out to eat, or go to see a movie. How are you managing internet service?

My husband also has some old stupid felonies (not just one) on his record, but he has always been able to find factory work. Quite frankly, he doesn't even have a GED, but no one ever checks. He says he got one in the military, and he was in the military, but he never got the GED. I really don't see why you guys are having as much of a problem as you are having. You are leaving us with more questions than answers about your situation. We'd love to help, but we can't do that without all the facts.

[utkd29]

I totally agree with both ladies. Sometimes it is easier to complain and make excuses for everything rather than do something about it. We all fall on hard times. It is the way you handle the situation that makes better or worse. If he isn't willing to do what it takes to make ends meet then there is a problem. I can remember when I was a little girl my daddy worked 2 jobs and that wasnt enough so he picked up tin cans off the side of the road. Wasn't always what he wanted to do but it was his job to make sure we ate. We don't mean to sound mean or anything but excuse after excuse is BS. Hope it gets better for you.

[gatito]

I totally agree with both ladies. Sometimes it is easier to complain and make excuses for everything rather than do something about it. We all fall on hard times. It is the way you handle the situation that makes better or worse. If he isn't willing to do what it takes to make ends meet then there is a problem. I can remember when I was a little girl my daddy worked 2 jobs and that wasnt enough so he picked up tin cans off the side of the road. Wasn't always what he wanted to do but it was his job to make sure we ate. We don't mean to sound mean or anything but excuse after excuse is BS. Hope it gets better for you.

GOD BLESS YOUR DAD, YOU HAVE A WONDERFUL DADDY !!!

[utkd29]

I know. I have the best daddy. We never had much but he always made sure some way we had what we needed and a little something on Christmas! Now he is in a much better financial situation so he has been making up for it for years now! That is what gets me through the day when I get to thinking about how much money I don't have. We will always make it.....makes me want to call him right now and tell him how thankful I am for him..... (ok now I have tears!)

[gatito]

I know. I have the best daddy. We never had much but he always made sure some way we had what we needed and a little something on Christmas! Now he is in a much better financial situation so he has been making up for it for years now! That is what gets me through the day when I get to thinking about how much money I don't have. We will always make it.....makes me want to call him right now and tell him how thankful I am for him..... (ok now I have tears!)

AWW, THAT'S 2 SWEET !!! FINALLY SOMETHING GOOD IN THIS THREAD !!!!

[GeorgiaMom]

I know this may seem like a cop out or a bad idea, but have you considered filing for bankruptcy? Yes, it will stay on your credit for awhile, but sometimes that is better than struggling so much for so long anyway. We have a few friends that have had to file because of medical issues. We came close ourselves when I got sick with our second child and literally lost my entire income overnight (which was higher than my husband's income at the time). We did a lot of research on it and found that had we done it, we wouldn't have to lose any of the things we needed, but we would only be making one small payment each month for 5 years instead of trying to come up with a ton of money that we no longer had. My husband managed to work a ton of overtime to keep us out of doing this, but we definitely had to change our lifestyle too.

By the way, in our research, we found out that almost 90% of people that file are not lazy deadbeat people. They are people that all have had some major unexpected issue or problem that has put them in a bad situation. Most didn't get to that point by living above their means and then whining about it later. Just a thought....hope this helps you.

[asumom]

My husband works till 7:00 at night, he isn't lazy. and yes we have considered a second job, but he would never be home ,yes I know yall think its a cop out ,but it's not, As far as working in fast food he was told by his probation officer YEARS AGO NOT TO,,yes we have even thought about filing bankrupt , but checked and it won't work for us,because we don't have cc's we have just the basic needs (house car insurance utilities etc), I have internet because it is cheap and its my only connection to my daughter, can't afford long distant on regular phone.
gatito I am sorry if you think that your suggestion aren't working I have and will continue to take them into consideration, I am truely thankful for all the advice. I can't work right now and I surely won't throw away 28 yrs with this man. I sorry if it isn't what you expect, but my children are on medicaid and I do get a about 100.00 in food stamps, my needs aren't with food it financial.
Mood4amelody, we don't rent movie or go out and eat we don't do much of anything don't have cable or dish or anything like that.
My husband interviewed with Toyota here is Texas and did 3 interviews before they said can't pass a back ground check we don't want you.
Iam really sorry everyone feels there are more questions than answers but I really don't know what to say, and no I have tried for disability, dr tells me it isn't bad enough.

[Motherofthree]

I know. I have the best daddy. We never had much but he always made sure some way we had what we needed and a little something on Christmas! Now he is in a much better financial situation so he has been making up for it for years now! That is what gets me through the day when I get to thinking about how much money I don't have. We will always make it.....makes me want to call him right now and tell him how thankful I am for him..... (ok now I have tears!)

I have tears just from reading your post!! God Bless your Dad!!:)

[utkd29]

No one said that he is lazy. I know it is important to be with family, but sometimes you have no other choice. Either be with the family on the streets or be away for a short time until things get back to normal. He is the man of the house. His main concern should be you and the children. You shouldn't even have to ask him to get a second job. He should do it willingly. We will keep you and the family in our prayers.

[utkd29]

I have tears just from reading your post!! God Bless your Dad!!:)

I still get tears after all these years!:) That's what daddy's are for!

[mood4amelody]

My husband works till 7:00 at night, he isn't lazy. and yes we have considered a second job, but he would never be home ,yes I know yall think its a cop out ,but it's not, As far as working in fast food he was told by his probation officer

I worked and went to school full time for a while and also have done 2 full time jobs. I was the only adult with 4 kids. It was killing me (not the work and the studying, but not seeing them enough), but I did not have a choice. I had kids to feed, clothe and shelter with no family or child support to help us. I was all alone so I did what I had to do. If he has to take a second crappy job to support you guys, that's the way this world is now. If the choice is having food and shelter but not getting to see him as much versus living on the street or eating dumpster food, well I think it's kinda obvious.

I don't want to seem harsh to you when you're having problems, but sweetie, I'm sure I've had worse ones. When it comes down to providing for children or having lots of quality family time, I say provide, provide, provide. It makes the time that you do have even more special anyway.

[mood4amelody]

I have tried for disability, dr tells me it isn't bad enough.

You should go to a different doctor! It sounded pretty bad to me! Are you supposed to make a full recovery with your back?

[asumom]

My back will never be healed except by the grace of god and his healing powers.
I want everyone to know I don't think your being mean or hateful just concerned,
it took my husband almost a year to get the job hes got now a second job might take awhile and yes he has been looking, but he get frustrated when you've been turned down as many times as he has.
Believe you me, we have prayed and will continue to pray, The pastor tells me it takes time, for these things but i feel Time is short and I believe all the stress is hurting me, I never fell good I worry about how we will get from week to week, I sorry some of you just don't understand.
As far as seeing a dr I don't have the money to do that, and Its very expensive.

[mood4amelody]

Do you have a medicaid card? If you haven't applied, you should! I'm thinking that if you have, you've been given a "spenddown"?

[Motherofthree]

I still get tears after all these years!:) That's what daddy's are for!

Thats what you call the best Dad!! Seriously, picking up cans just to support his family!! Thats an amazing man and father. :)

[asumom]

I don't have a medical card, just the kids, I have nothing from the state, they told us if my husband quite his job we could get medical. The state of Texas said we made to much money to qualify

[asumom]

I am looking to find a job i can do at home, maybe on the computer or something like that.

[Motherofthree]

asumom I just wanted to let you know that I will keep you and your family in my prayers. May I ask how old are your children??

[asumom]

Thank you for caring, My children are 23, 17 and 10.

[Motherofthree]

Thank you for caring, My children are 23, 17 and 10.

I was thinking they were much younger..I just was wondering and I really dont want to offend you but do the 17 yr old or the 23 yr old work and do they live with you?? You dont have to answer my question if it is offending...

[utkd29]

Have you thought about doing some kind of home parties? I did that for the first year I was married so I wouldnt have to get a public job. I could make my own hours and work when I wanted to.

[Motherofthree]

I was thinking they were much younger..I just was wondering and I really dont want to offend you but do the 17 yr old or the 23 yr old work and do they live with you?? You dont have to answer my question if it is offending...


okay the only reason why I'm asking is maybe they could help the family out for a while?? Just a suggestion;)

[asumom]

My 23 yr doesn't live here she is engaged and living in Virginia, so a wedding isin the near future and That worries me she says the will pay but that isn't completely her job.
My 17 did work alittle bit, just got a car his sister gave him, he will be leaving for college in june or july, he is checking on a job to help pay for car insurance and the up keep on his car, it was a gift for christmas, because her boyfriend just got her a newer one.

I don'r know what kind of parties you are talking about , a bunch that I know about all take some kind of money to get started.

[Motherofthree]

Have you signed up for Toys for Tots for your 10 yr. old this year??
They will give your child some nice things and you will get a basket also..

[gatito]

My back will never be healed except by the grace of god and his healing powers.
I want everyone to know I don't think your being mean or hateful just concerned,
it took my husband almost a year to get the job hes got now a second job might take awhile and yes he has been looking, but he get frustrated when you've been turned down as many times as he has.
Believe you me, we have prayed and will continue to pray, The pastor tells me it takes time, for these things but i feel Time is short and I believe all the stress is hurting me, I never fell good I worry about how we will get from week to week, I sorry some of you just don't understand.
As far as seeing a dr I don't have the money to do that, and Its very expensive.

I AM SO SORRY IF I HURT YOUR FEELINGS, I AM NOT LIKE THAT, SOMETIMES WE THROUGH A LOT OF SHUT AND PEOPLE DON'T UNDERSTAND BECAUSE THEY ARE NOT WALKING IN OUR SHOES AND ACTUALLY THEY DON'T EVEN CARE...SO PLEASE ACCEPT MY APOLOGY. TRY TO DO SURVEYS ONLINE, IF YOU NEED HELP PM ME I KNOW SOME GOOD SITES FOR SURVEYS, YOU ARE NOT GONNA MAKE ENOUGH TO LIVE OF IT BUT LIKE I SAID SOMETHING IS SOMETHING, YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW HAPPY I WAS WHEN I GOT MY FIRST $3.00 CHECK FROM A SURVEY!! SO WHATEVER YOU NEED LET US KNOW !!

[utkd29]

Most parties like Pampered chef, mary kay, passion parties...ect will let you host your own party and with the profits you can buy your kit. Then you aren't out any money. You should look into this.

[asumom]

No I didn't do toys for tots , I don't qualify because we don't live in the city, we live out in the country, I did sign her up for 2 programs we have here and they are called Brown Santa(sheriffs department) and Christmas in Castroville, The town we live in.
My daughter sells Tarrah Products.

[Motherofthree]

No I didn't do toys for tots , I don't qualify because we don't live in the city, we live out in the country, I did sign her up for 2 programs we have here and they are called Brown Santa(sheriffs department) and Christmas in Castroville, The town we live in.
My daughter sells Tarrah Products.

Everything will get better. Just give it time. Dont forget you have A LOT of people praying for you!!!

[asumom]

thank you for all your thoughts and prayers

[mood4amelody]

I don't have a medical card, just the kids, I have nothing from the state, they told us if my husband quite his job we could get medical. The state of Texas said we made to much money to qualify

I'd like to get ahold of you to give you some information that I don't want to post publicly, but you are not PMable. How can I send you a link to a place that can help you out?

[asumom]

mom4amelody try to pm me again, I think I fixed it.

[mood4amelody]

got it sent - I hope it helps!! :)

[momsangel]

I would like to just say that despite all of your hard times that you are having,always try to be positive and have faith that tomorrow will be a better day for you and your family. Also a comment surely going to offend alot of others but,here it is: Always try to realize someone else is worse off than you are,people go to bed hungry,people are homeless etc.point being try to be Thankful for what you have rather than what you do not have.And know that prayers go along way and so does my favorite saying:PAY IT FORWARD sometimes just a suggestion is worth more than all the money in the world.
I will pray for you and your family at these troubled times and send wishes for better days

[mom2fussbudgets]

She can't get on Medicaid, only her kids can. Been there, done that!

Do you have a vehicle? You could sign up with ShopNChek and do some mystery shopping. It won't pay all the bills, but it will bring in a little bit of money.